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You’ve Got the Power

I had one of those moments.

You know the one – someone yells, attacks you; you feel like you have been hit in the gut; your body tenses.

This is your moment – a chance to overcome an extreme trigger.

It is a chance to get your power back.

If you are the recipient of that anger, you have two choices:

1. React in anger – which reinforces “angry reactions” in your life.

2. Choose to take 100% responsibility for your life. Choose freedom and peace.

Every time you are challenged and embrace the challenge as an opportunity, you GROW.

Like any new habit, breaking the reaction, then choosing to be powerful, strengthens the new behavior.

That growth = more control of your life = freedom = peace. Remember: you get to choose.

How can you get calm when you are very upset? How can you create more self-awareness, break a pattern?

  • Breathe deeply; keep breathing until you feel calmer.

  • If you have more time: Go to somewhere quiet or practice this at your desk:

Breathe deeply, close your eyes; see a calming scene – a beach, the mountains,


Play calm music, continue to breathe, and focus on your breathing.

Distracted? Focus on the music or just your breath. Think/speak, “I feel calm; it is all


  • SMILE – even if you do not feel like it. You will shift your brain to positive = immediately feel better.

The key here is not to dwell on the “incident” but to allow your brain and body to re-claim peace.

Then re-join the world – go back and do what you need to do at work or home.

Notice your natural tendency to blame and complain in your mind; STOP IT – this will only make it worse.

Instead, keep repeating, “I feel calm; it is all okay. I choose freedom and peace.”

When you can, you may want to:

  • Write about it. Write until you feel better. This helps you let it go; it creates insights for change.

  • Talk (no complaining) to a calm friend. Process it; focus on letting it go; no blaming, no “I am a victim.”

  • Send them kindness – Think, “I am sending you feel better thoughts; compassion, kindness.”

These are “higher actions;” they take you out of the habits that keep you stuck. They transform you.

Practice them next time someone is unkind to you. As you do this, you empower yourself to be peaceful.

And isn’t that what you want – to be peaceful, to get your power back?

You are 100% responsible for your thoughts, emotions, and actions; you’ve got the power to choose.

Decide - “I choose to respond to my challenge, not to let it overtake me; not to let it ruin my hour, day.”

You’ve got the power.


How does Paula add value?

Are you, your team stressed by uncertainty and change; are productivity, turnover, engagement, issues?

Paula is a proven expert, creating thriving IT teams with simple tools to shift thinking and actions.

Highly interactive Zoom workshops (45-60+ min.) improve productivity, retention, engagement, morale.

Proof? Coca-Cola Charlotte (CCBCC): 90% Engaged, 91% Retention, 79% Productive, 68% Managing Stress.

Call now: 704-906-8045, email: or visit her website

Result: 5 minutes of your time = a free interactive workshop to get the tools you and your team need now.

Paula Guilfoyle

Consultant – Transforming Teams

Call now: 704-906-8045, email: or visit her website

Result: 5 minutes of your time = a free interactive workshop to get the tools you and your team need now.


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