The project changed for the worse.
A team member said something that upset you.
As a leader you might think, “This is out of control. Every time I turn around something bad happens.”
That thought makes you feel unhappy, annoyed.
How can you get your focus and your power back?
State the truth:
“The project changed.”
“He said my contribution was…” “She said she wants changes…”
Keep to the facts.
Recognize it is your thought about a situation, not the situation, that causes you to be upset.
Those thoughts – the story you create - make you feel unhappy, act disempowered.
When you keep to the facts you choose peace and calm, you get your focus back.
Decide to keep to the facts.
Change your habitual negative reaction. Model better responses = acceptance + action.
Notice how a new thought of acceptance followed by action empowers you.
Say, “I can accept that…” “It is okay that…” then, “I choose to take action to change _____ (situation).”
Accept what is – and take powerful action - now.
Get your power back.
-- Paula Guilfoyle is a Speaker and Consultant on The Mindset & Behaviors for effective leadership and teamwork.
Her company, Claim Leadership, helps teams get back on track during extreme change and disruption. Using simple tools from her GAP Formula, she teaches teams to become more positive, focused, and productive. Work gets done, clients are satisfied; turnover is reduced, and teams are successful and engaged. Her clients include Coca-Cola, Lowe’s, Microsoft, and Accenture.
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