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Leadership Thinking – Living in Peace

Today you have a problem – a person, situation or thing doesn’t work for you.

You complain –

Why is that person so difficult?

Because that is who they are in this moment.

Why did they change ____ at work?

Because they did.

Whatever you resist, persists. It stays with you, you keep thinking about it. It upsets you.

Have you ever noticed that the more you complain, the more there is to complain about?

Focusing on what you do not like makes you a victim – “poor me, they did it to me again.”

Now, if you want to feel bad and ruin your day – stay right there with your negative thoughts.

If not, I have some ideas.

Try my “Triple A Formula” - Accept whatever is – with a positive Attitude and take Action.

You ACCEPT what is (the teammate, challenge, project change) in this moment.

They are who they are, it is what it is. “I accept______”

You have an ATTITUDE of “I take 100% responsibility; I am in control.”

You say, “This will work out, I can handle this.” You stop complaining. Now.

You take positive ACTION to resolve the situation.

You listen, apologize, talk to them, ask for help, work to move the project forward.

When you use the “Triple A” formula you take control – you get to choose what happens.

You take 100% responsibility for your life – for feeling better, for your happiness and results.

So, what is bothering you right now? Think of your biggest challenge.

Who, what do you need to accept? Write it down.

Ask, “What do I need to give up being right about, wanting it to be a certain way?” Write it. Finally, say “Do I want to be right or have peace?” Decide. Can you choose peace?

Then take positive action.

If you simply can’t accept the person, situation or thing – ACCEPT that you can’t accept.

This will also bring you peace.

Try AAA: Accept what is, with an Attitude of “I take 100% responsibility,” then take Action.

This is Leadership Thinking – and the key to peace.


Claim Leadership’s unique approach improves productivity, inclusivity, and retention. We teach leaders and their teams to change the way they: Think, Feel and ACT to change the way they perform. The results: effective leaders and teams – “… no matter the challenge or change.” (Coca-Cola Charlotte)

Paula: 704-906-8045 (call/text with name please)

Paula Guilfoyle

Consultant – Transforming Teams

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Result: 5 minutes of your time = a free interactive workshop to get the tools you and your team need now.

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