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The Magic Formula for Happiness & Success

She was relentless.

“You are late. This never works well when you start this way.”

“I can’t believe you did this again, what were you thinking?”

As she continued, my energy, my focus, and my motivation – all dropped.

I was stuck. How could I get back to being calm, happy, and productive?

First, notice you are letting that “voice” (your self-talk) ruin your day.

Next, change your self-talk to kind, encouraging, affirming.

“You screwed up!” becomes “It is okay; you did your best, try again.”

Researchers say we think criticism changes our behavior.

It is just the opposite, criticism depletes you.

Notice when you are not feeling good and speak kindly to yourself.

“It is okay; you are doing your best. Keep going.”

Science tells us changing our thoughts is the only way to change our actions.

When you feel better – you take better actions = great results.

And here is the amazing part.

When you practice being kinder to yourself, all your relationships benefit.

As you speak kindly to yourself, you are happier.

You start letting yourself and others off the hook.

Then the world becomes a more pleasant, peaceful place.

Speak, think, and behave kindly to yourself and others.

You will be happier, more successful, and peaceful.

It is simple. Be kind.


Paula is on a mission to help organizations transition “back to optimal environment,” = what works best for all.

She would love to connect and hear what your team is doing to retain your best talent through promoting open listening, addressing change anxiety and creating your “optimal environment” for engaged effectiveness.

Paula: 704-906-8045 (call/text with name please)

Paula Guilfoyle

Consultant – Transforming Teams

Call now: 704-906-8045, email: or visit her website

Result: 5 minutes of your time = a free interactive workshop to get the tools you and your team need now.


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