1 Minute to Resilience

My client was triggered the other day. Have you ever been triggered? A negative trigger is something that causes you to feel badly. It creates an upset; it makes you feel angry, frustrated, out of control. In his case, he said he wanted to strangle the person. Fortunately, he did not. The person who “triggered” you didn’t create the trigger; they just activated it. The trigger was created in the past. Your response is conditioned, automatic, a habit. Remember Pavlov’s dog

It was only 9:33 am – and I felt upset, angry. What she said really upset me. How could she accuse me of that? I kept running the “she’s wrong” conversation in my head. The worst part – I felt stressed; how was I going to get my work done? How could I get back to peace and productivity – in one-minute? I could choose. I could decide that no thought, no situation could take my peace away. First, I had to recognize that my thinking was getting in the way. I was saying, “I a

This is such a challenging time right now. My brain tends to wander, focusing on the negatives. To keep it off negative, I have to re-program it for power, peace and – dare I say – happy. How do you get back to feeling you have power over your life? How do you get back to power, peace and – happy? To get back to feeling better you have to change your thinking. Whatever you are struggling with is in your thinking. Your habitual negative thoughts are up to no good – driving

Get it done, get it done. Rushing, stressing. Is that what your day feels like? I am happy to say I have a quick fix. And it doesn’t involve yelling, procrastination, food or coffee. You’ll be surprised at how simple it is to get back to calm. And it feels so good. Three steps. Breathe, breathe and breathe – inhale deeply and let it out – three times. If you are alone, feel free to exhale loudly. Doesn’t that feel good? Keep going – keep breathing. Three times and three

I was yelling at him – yelling at my former husband. He doesn’t hear well; I was trying to communicate with him – across 2 rooms. “Where is the light switch in here?” I yelled. My yelling made me feel angry. That bad feeling caused more bad feelings and…before I knew it, I was fighting with him – about nothing. I became the difficult person. When you raise your voice – in frustration and anger as I did – you increase your negative energy or vibrations. Negative vibration