1 Minute to Resilience

This time I was really side-swiped by their anger. It hit me hard – and I had to react quickly. Unfortunately, I didn’t remember the three steps that would save me. My teacher this time was a neighbor – someone I care about. And, since your relationships equal your happiness, you can be held captive. Do you want to be happy and successful? Pay attention to the people you work with, live with and love. To improve relationships, try the 3-step formula – “ALP” – Apologize,

I was miserable. My happiness had just been hijacked – and I had allowed it. A peer told me they were upset with me – that they didn’t want to talk about it. Now, they have every right to be upset about what I did, didn’t do, said, didn’t say. But I felt out of control; feelings of fear and upset came over me. I could accept they were upset, yet the open loop – their continued anger – kept me stuck. As long as their behavior needed to change for me to be happy, I was choo

I was on a mission – as usual, rushing through my day. I had a home “to do” list, and I was trying to catch-up on work.  And it was the weekend. The dinner was planned, the closet cleaned and 6 other goals accomplished. I was running like a crazy woman. I ran past my friend Mike at Lowe’s, was multi-tasking as I talked to my daughter, cut a phone call short. At the end of the day I realized I had not been present for the most important part of my life. People. Connection.

Someone bothering you? Some complaint about your life or someone? Let it go. You can be the master of your life – peaceful, happy and successful. Or, you can collide with what just happened, or might happen – and be unhappy. The “I don’t like this, I don’t like her…” creates disasters – in your mind, then in your life. It is impossible to be truly happy when you are focused on what you don’t like. Drop it – let it go. How? By focusing on something else – a better thought

Science tells us that relationships are up to 85% of our happiness. If you want to be happy and successful, pay attention to your relationships. Pay attention to how connected you are with the people you work with, live with and love. To improve relationships, practice compassion. Compassion is the subject of “The Book of Joy” by the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu. Compassion – for yourself and others – leads to joy. So, whoever is bugging you has something within them that