I was exhausted.
With each email I wrote my energy was getting lower and lower.
I read one and thought, “Yikes – is this really what I want to say?”
I finally figured out what works, and it freed me. See if this works for you. I put myself in their shoes – then I Iet go. I wrote the email thinking, “What would I like to read if I were them?” – friendly versus “I need this.”
1. I did my best to imagine what they were going through = compassion.
2. I as
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This week I received an upsetting text.
In essence it said (in my mind) “What you did was wrong; tell me you were wrong.”
BAM! I was triggered.
I had two choices: choose to respond with, “I am right,” and stay stuck in my old fear habit.
Or choose peace. Initially I chose to be right; my reaction was habit. I started to text a “you are wrong” message.
This reaction kept me stuck – out of control. Notice how I allowed the text to control me. Then I chose peace.
I was miserable. My happiness had just been hijacked – and I had allowed it.
A peer told me they were upset with me – that they didn’t want to talk about it.
Now, they have every right to be upset about what I did, didn’t do, said, didn’t say.
But I felt out of control; feelings of fear and upset came over me.
I could accept they were upset, yet the open loop – their continued anger – kept me stuck. As long as their behavior needed to change for me to be happy, I was choo
That is what you want.
Between you and peace are your thoughts, the “negative chatter.” So how do you get to peace when you feel stressed, unhappy?
Start by noticing that you don’t feel good.
This is a sign that your negative voice is taking over. Next, use one of these tools:
1. SMILE – smiling shifts your energy. You instantly feel better.
Hold your smile for a minute or more.
Then keep the feeling going with a powerful thought, “This is a great d
Ready to exhale?
It’s simple – shift how you respond to life; accept “whatever” bugs you and act positively.
For example, I am an extrovert who lives alone.
When I choose, “I live alone, I choose to feel happy and enjoy my life,” I feel peaceful, happy.
When I think “I don’t like living alone,” I am resisting, I feel upset. My resistance = unhappy. What are you resisting today that makes you unhappy?
What are you saying “no” to? What can you say “yes” to? When you resist