1 Minute to Resilience

He was bugging me more than usual. With every word he said, I felt manipulated, out of control and angry. This was not going to be easy – or could it be? How can you get past the mental struggle with the person who challenges you the most today? You make a different choice. When you choose to be miserable because of what another did or said, you give up your power. Your mind says, “How can I be happy when… he said this, that happened…?” That is an old, bad habit. It leave

Are you stressed? Spinning non-stop; worrying about something? When you are spinning you are focused on what isn’t working. I have the answer. Dive right in. This is the key to your success and happiness. First ask, “What is my #1 goal at work today?” Write the answer – your goal – with an action verb. “Take the next step on the project,” will not do. What does your brain do with that? It gets confused. It says “What is the next action?” Your brain likes clarity. Give it

I kept making the same mistakes; jumping to conclusions with friends, hurting feelings. Then I interrupted my sister and gave her unsolicited advice – so painful for both of us. Yet this is how I have operated for years – with the people I care about the most. I am my habits – you are your habits. Until you notice and change habits, you are stuck; you feel out of control. Remember, you impact everyone. When you change, they change. That is your bonus. Everyone wins. So h

“This is GOOD news – something good will come out of this!” she would yell from the back office. At the time, I had no idea how helpful this response would be in my life. I was in grad school; working full-time, going to school full-time with a part-time internship. My boss was the ultimate optimist; effective at keeping everyone focused on our vision of service, success. Whenever she received “bad” news, this was her response. What do you say to others when the project ch

From the moment I woke up today I was challenged. A “bad” thought crept in; it hit me in my gut. My energy dropped. I knew that it would take all my effort to jumpstart my day – so I threw myself into positive. I started saying, “My life is working perfectly, something wonderful is happening to me.” Then I got out of bed and said, “Thanks for a great new day – things are going my way.” It was working. I felt better. And since you can only think one thought at a time, I k

I was doing a combination of the morning “whirl” and the “Hey, I’ve got this.” Working at home can be distracting – the “voice” in my head can take over, it needs to be controlled. Then it hit – the opportunity to focus on helping someone = empowering myself. A friend emailed me to tell me she and her husband could not make dinner on Saturday night. Lisa told me there was something wrong with her; the doctors couldn’t figure it out yet, she needed to rest. In quick successi